Relax yourself, girl, please settle down

Why can't I just settle down with anyone?  I mean, not just anyone, but you know what I mean... I could've just gotten married with the first one that came along and that would've been it.  Then, there are people in your life who do some type of intervention whether you want it or not. They tear your blinders off, take an unbiased position, have your best interest at heart, and are so wise beyond my years that they say these things that make me feel as if I still having growing up to do. At one point I did say we constantly improve ourselves and never really stop learning, blah blah blah. Well, here it is for me, summarized to my own understanding and application.

You've worked so hard to get some sort of stability. Stability isn't established right away.  As a matter of fact, it took someone 16 years (even after raising a family, even after his children are grown) to finally feel stable.  Stable, in his mind, was knowing no matter what happens his family will be well taken care of one way or another. Decide for yourself what stability means for you, but I have my own definition. When faced with a decision that could compromise the stability you've worked so hard to achieve, are you willing to sacrifice that? How important is it to you and how fast do you want it? Be patient? Search for it elsewhere? Bleh.

Butterflies. No, not the winged insects. Feeling butterflies is the chemical reaction your body experiences when adrenaline is released into your bloodstream due to something that excites you. The butterflies you first feel in a relationship are a novelty. This means it wears off overtime. Sure, they will pop up now and then, but for the most part, things change and other things come to the forefront and become more important. Think of what will be important to you when the butterflies wear off or the chemical reactions come few and far between, because that is what you're going to carry you on throughout the years together.

The older and the wiser seem to know what they are talking about. 

P.S. The title is from the song "Electric Relaxation" by a Tribe Called Quest - back in the days, when rap/hip hop was better than what we hear these days.